They don’t tell you that when you get a pup you’ll fall in love with her immediately and never want to live another day without her. They don’t tell you that when you start a new show on Netflix that you’ll become hooked, and binge watch nine seasons in two weeks. They don’t tell you that when you wish upon a star it doesn’t come true. They didn’t tell you any of this. You’ve had to learn it on your own. You’ve had to learn how to fend for yourself on a daily basis against people who are going to try to tear you down. Day in and day out, you have had to come to conclusions on your own about nearly everything you’ve encountered. Whether to drive the speed limit or risk going 20 mph over because you’re running late to work. Realizing that when you mix dark and light liquor, you will have one of the worst hangovers you could imagine. Or even figuring out that if you say something as a joke, some people may take it personally and you’ve now offended someone. They don’t teach you these things.
But who’s they?
We are so quick to place the blame on anyone; our parents, coworkers, friends, family, strangers we meet, etc. But who do we not place the blame on? Ourselves. Because lets be real here, what do we ever do wrong?
It’s a cat and mouse game when it comes to placing the blame. Instead of standing up and taking the responsibility for what has occurred, we point fingers and push others under the bus in order to avoid any consequences that are thrown our way.
When did it get to be like that? In my opinion, it stems from when we were children. We were taught right from wrong from moment we entered the world. Yes, you can have dessert after you finish dinner. No, don’t touch the hot stove. These decisions were drilled into our minds without question or hesitation from a young age. We have taken these life lessons with us through our lives, and passed them down to others along the way. But what about the other side? What about what we had to learn on our own?
That’s the kicker. We have had to learn how to go throughout life making decisions on our own. These decisions affect your life, your health, your physical, mental and emotional status on a daily basis. What you choose to do with your life is nobody else choice but yours. You have nobody else to blame for the choices you make. It’s not the same as when you were a child and someone would tell you not to run in the street, or not to shop lift. If something doesn’t work out the way you wanted it to, you can’t pass the blame onto someone else. No-one made the choice for you. There was nobody forcing your hand to do what you didn’t want to do. You have free will. You can say yes, or you can say no.
Ultimately, these decisions and choices were made by you. They were thought through and decided for. Depending on the choice that was made, the outcome has a possibility of either being positive to negative. However, that outcome affects only one person directly. You.
In this life, beyond age 18, you are at the age of accountability. The decisions you make on a daily basis are going to affect you, and only you, for the rest of your life. So remember, choose wisely.